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More and more men are coming to me with problems of erection, low libido or fear of premature ejaculation.
Often, the question seems purely mechanical: how can this malfunction be fixed quickly?
But very quickly, behind the symptoms, deeper tensions emerge: fatigue, chronic stress, loneliness, social pressure, loss of meaning.
And above all, a disconnection from the body, breath, mind and spirit. the momentum of life.
Contrary to popular belief, an erection is not a reflex of willpower or performance.
It is a phenomenon governed by the autonomic nervous system, more specifically by its parasympathetic branch, in which the vagus nerve plays a central role.
Without relaxation, breathing and release, an erection cannot be sustained.
This cranial nerve descends from the medulla oblongata to the abdomen, innervating the heart, lungs, stomach, intestines...
It is the great highway of relaxation, rest and regeneration.
When it is active, the body relaxes, blood flows to the pelvis, the genitals are irrigated and pleasure can be welcomed.
But for many men, this nerve is suffocated by stress, urgency, fatigue and the pressure to succeed... even in bed.
Erection problems are often thought to affect only older men.
But today, more and more young men, from the age of 20 or 25, find themselves at a loss, not physically, but internally.
In a society where image, speed and sexual performance are valued, many of them are silently experiencing a form of disconnection.
It's not just a question of biological “virility”.
It's about a relationship with oneself, with the body, with the female gaze.
As Gérard Leleu so rightly said:
«We live our sexuality as we represent ourselves to the world.»
And at a time when the feminine is taking its place, asserting its power, its freedom and its desire, many men no longer know how to inhabit their place as men without falling into excessive domination or confused submission.
Many say:
«Everything's fine, I'm young, so I don't have any problems.»
But in intimacy, from the very first exchanges, from the very beginnings of a bond, emotions rise up, the fear of being judged, rejected, compared.
And the body can't keep up.
It's a subtle dance between confidence, inner security and the bond with others.
And when this security is lacking, it's not masculinity that fades: it's the masculine that calls for a new anchoring.
It's not a question of condemning, medicalising at all costs, or repairing quickly.
It's a path.
A return to slowness, to contact, to the breathing of connection. To that moment when people are no longer obliged to “do”, but to 'be'.
And it is here, often, that the quiet power of the masculine is reborn.
There is a natural hormonal change in men from the age of 45: testosterone levels fall.
This doesn't mean that you lose your power, it just means that’we have to live it differently. More finely.
By taking care of your lifestyle: sleep, adapted sports, diet, exposure to natural light,
breathing.
But also by cultivating spaces of deep relaxation, of intimacy with oneself.
When I welcome these men for initiation, I don't offer them a magic solution, but a space for slowness, for reception, for returning to the body.
Tantric massage works on everything that relaxes the autonomic nervous system: the occiput, diaphragm, abdomen, coccyx and breathing.
It gets you out of your head,
the need to get hard, the fear of failing.
It reopens the door to sensation, diffuse pleasure and vitality.
Behind the loss of libido or erectile difficulties, there is often a tiredness of life, a feeling of emptiness, or a loss of connection with deep desire.
Tantric massage is an invitation to feel alive again.
Not to perform.
But to rediscover a connection, an embodied breath, a presence.
And that's often when the erection returns. Naturally.
When it is scarce, it does not ask to be forced, but listened to.
What if this was the signal that it's time to change pace, to go back down into the body, and honour our sexuality as a path of awareness?
Listening and caring,
Hajira
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